Once you have a better understanding of your Soldier's situation it is important to look at what your needs are as well as your family's. It is not uncommon during this stage to start addressing the needs of others in your life who are depending on you. Reaching out to loved ones and doing your best to get affairs in order will be a part of your initial journey with your Soldier.
If you have children, family dependents, or pets you can reach out to your network to find support for them while you are away from home. Below are a list of documents you should leave behind with your dependent caregiver:
Children
Children being left with friends or family may need special support. Younger children may only need to know that you are going on a journey and will be back soon. Older children may need more information and you may be comfortable explaining that their loved one is hurt and needs your support. For all minors, child care providers will need to know your contact information, destination and lodging, duration of stay, and child medical information to include pediatrician and other medical providers, allergies and special medical conditions, insurance information, and school information.
Dependents
Adult dependents will need enough information to understand the current situation. The amount of information you provide is your choice. As a general rule you can share what you feel is necessary to maintain peace. It is common for your dependents to want to know more information and ask questions you may not have answers to or feel comfortable answering. Like you, they are looking for clarity and peace. Remember, you are the one to control the information you share and when you share it and you will have many opportunities to share more information through this process. Some information you want to share with your dependents may include:
- - Soldier mobilization orders (MOB Orders) - Leave at least on copy at home
- - Medical release of care - for your children/adult dependents, etc.
- - Dependent Military ID - for each of your Military dependents
Home Care for Pets
Pets should be boarded or taken care of while you are away. If you need support for your home pets take a look at our library resources page.
Civilian Work
For those who are working Caregivers reach out to your workplace to discuss options with your place of employment the (Family Medical Leave Act) may be a resource to refer to for more support.
Military Financial Support
For families that are currently receiving supplemental pay through the military such as Basic Allowance for Housing (BAH), Basic Allowance for Subsistence (BAS), or Separation and Hazardous duty pay you will continue to receive these allowances unless notified of a change in your Soldier's allowances.